An asexual is someone who does not experience sexual attraction. Unlike celibacy, which is a choice, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are. Asexuality does not make our lives any worse or any better, we just face a different set of challenges than most sexual people. There is considerable diversity among the asexual community; each asexual person experiences relationships, attraction, and arousal somewhat differently. Asexuality is just beginning to be the subject of scientific research.
David Jay is the leader of the movement. He travels throughout the world talking about asexuality and creating new relationship models through community based intimacy—non-sexual relationships with a few people as a way to fulfill his needs. Currently, David has a tight circle of three people in lieu of a relationship with one person. Each member of his circle cares very much for him but sees him as a good friend and not necessarily as a life partner. David says he is completely satisfied with this and thinks it will suffice as a relationship. His friends are not so sure.
David Jay is the protagonist of the film but there are additional asexual characters that will flesh out the movement as a whole.
Antonia, 37 is an attractive, African American women, is a life coach who has finally figured out that she is asexual and is eager to organize a group in NYC but is having little luck. She and Swank Ivy, 34, are part of a new guard of people eager to spearhead the asexual movement.
Elizabeth, 23, and Brian, 44, are a young, recently engaged couple in Austin, TX. She is asexual and he is not. She is actively keeping her asexuality secret from her conservative parents while she plans for her wedding. We follow Elizabeth and Brian as they negotiate their lives together with two disparate sexual realities.
Barb, 60, a pilot and cat rescuer, spent most of her life having sex with both men and women, searching for what she described as a “breakthrough.” After much research, she found David Jay and the growing asexual movement. She is now invigorated by this new definition for herself.
Throughout the film, these experts explain and comment on the asexuality movement:
Dan Savage, Sex Columnist